Am I Abused?

According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, you may be experiencing abuse if you answer “yes” to any one of the questions below. Does your partner:

  1. Embarrass you with put-downs?
  2. Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
  3. Control what you do, who you see or talk to, or where you go?
  4. Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
  5. Take your money or Social Security check, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?
  6. Make all the decisions?
  7. Tell you that you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
  8. Prevent you from working or attending school?
  9. Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even denies doing it?
  10. Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
  11. Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?
  12. Shove you, slap you, choke you, or hit you?
  13. Force you to try and drop charges?
  14. Threaten to commit suicide?
  15. Threaten to kill you?

For further clarification, please review the Power and Control Wheel (requires Adobe Acrobat Reader) and consider if your partner uses the actions described to gain or maintain power and control in your relationship. Many have found validation, affirmation and education at Hagar’s Sisters. If you’d like to find out more about support groups, contact us.